Mar 27, 2017 · 2 min read

Obsession — Are You Driving Your and yourself Friends Crazy?

People have addictions which seem incomprehensible to people who don’t
have those addictions. His Secret Obsession ebook Take gambling as an example; non gamblers just don’ t know how or why someone would spend every available opportunity
to sit in a casino and willingly dispose of all of their money. From an outside
view it looks like unbelievable stupidity. It seems to become a boring, repetitious
and frustrating hobby at best. On the logical level we wonder why those
people haven’t worked out that ‘the house always wins’. The gambler loves
to bop around and brag concerning the times he did win even though all of us see
the final outcome is he has no home, nothing in the bank and a
huge credit debt. Yet, on the small winning streak he is able to be completely
oblivious to this fact. Without analyzing all the complexities of a gambling
addiction, we are able to summarize it as being this: The gamblers belief in winning the big
one is more than his belief within the reality of what has happened, what is
happening and what will predictably happen. In short, the dream is much more
real compared to reality.

Exactly the same can be said for drugs, alcohol, food, cigarettes, sex and all
addictions. The reality of an addicts life may be sheer devastation and yet
the fact that yet another of whatever will be what the dream expects itself to

It seems to me that a dream can hook right into a compartment within the mind
and be completely embedded. It is just like a sacred place also it contains
all we would like. It may be wealth, happiness, love, security or whatever. We
have the ability to desires so we have the ability to dreams and we all have a location in out minds
in which we live those possibilities. The gambler might have originally
had a imagine a large win. He probably had a handful of good wins initially
and that reinforced the dream. Somehow though, the gambler became
hooked on the dream. The big win becomes a primary point of reference
as well as in time all experiences loop to that time of reference. That is, all
information and every experience gets filtered through the reference point.
Some label this classic denial. I refer to it as ‘The happy place’.

It appears impossible to speak logic or facts for an addict. They filter out what
you say; they may make believe you listen, or they argue with you or blank you
out completely. His Secret Obsession ebook Their eyes glaze over, their ears shut you out of trouble and you can
almost hear them singing lah, lah lah while you speak. They have gone to the
happy place.

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