That’s a weird assumption. Why on earth do you think I’d be treated as a feminine gay man? I’m a woman. My friends treat me as a woman. My coworkers and spouses and kids treat me as a woman. The government treats me as a woman (it says “F” on my driver’s license and U.S. passport). Cashiers say “ma’am” to me. Older Southern folk say “honey.” I look great in a women’s bathing suit at the pool, and other women ask me where I bought it. Straight dudes randomly hit on me on the subway. Doors are held open for me whether I want it or not. I get talked down to. Friends complain to me about their periods. I chat with women I don’t know in restrooms.
That’s my daily lived experience. Without knowing me or my sexuality, you want to tell me all of that lived experience is that of a “homosexual male?” While stressing the importance of “empirical proof” in the same breath?
I’m not sure you know what empiricism actually means, ‘Ultramegaok999’. It means making observations before drawing conclusions. You can’t know that much about women either, if you‘re going to contradict all the sensible people who see me as one every day. And it’s certain you don’t know anything about gay men. (Helpful hint: They’re men who are attracted to men. Neither is true of me.)
I hope that cleared up your confusion! If you want to actually learn anything about people, try asking questions instead of telling them wrong things about themselves. I’ll be happy to answer any if you want to give that a shot.
