Things cis allies can do that help:
- Debunk the “bathroom predator” lie and tell everyone you know that it’s never happened anywhere.
- If you hear anyone intentionally misgendering a trans person or babbling about mental illness or “men in women’s rooms,” whack them with as big a clue stick as you like.
- If a trans person wants you to go with them someplace for safety or piece of mind, do so. Don’t grandstand or tweet about it, just be a friend.
- Stay informed, donate to credible orgs, help with advocacy if your conscience or interests so incline you.
- Treat us like the normal human beings we are.
Things cis allies sometimes do that DON’T help:
- Get so excited about your trans friend/partner/relative/gerbil that you tell everybody in the tri-state area. (This is an especially mortal sin if it means outing them.)
- Proudly preach how Very Very Accepting you feel about the idea of a trans person in the same bathroom with you. (Nobody asks us to be proud of sharing them with cis people…)
- Insist that #YoullGoWithUs whether we needed it or not, so that you can feel amazing about what a helper you are.
- Gush tearfully about how very brave and extraordinary we are for breathing and wearing clothes and doing the same things you do every day.
- Treat us in every ordinary encounter, conversation, and side mention as Trans People™ instead of just “people.”