Imagine your mind is a garden…

…what would you see there?

It might be a nice picture, or something that you dread to see. Let’s focus for now on the emotional side of it. Strong emotions will look like a large trees or bushes; smaller ones will look like grass. Positive emotions are nice to touch, nice to look at and might even bear fruit… Negative ones would be weeds, thorns or ugly to look at…

This will define how you act…

You will try to avoid thorns and ugly places in your garden. You will try to lay and rest on the grass, not in the middle of nettle. And when you have to go to the weeds, you will feel pain, disgust, sadness… Of course, you have your willpower. It will allow you to go into the thorny places. But how long will it last for?

Imagine that you stuck in the patch of nettle. To get out of there you need to break through 2-meter-tall thorny bushes… And moreover, you don’t even know what waits you behind them… What would you do?

The same happens in your real life. You would try to avoid actions and decisions which bring you to the negative emotions. You will try to avoid strong pain, even if it means bearing with the weak pain instead. This will happen unconsciously; in most cases you won’t even realize that…

Do you look after your garden?

What would happen if you leave your garden without care? If your positive emotions were strong, they will stay and grow despite the lack of care. If not… weeds will grow. Over time your garden will turn into a garden of weeds. A lot of them will blossom and spread their seeds around the place…

This is exactly what most of us do. We leave our mind gardens almost without care and just try to ignore what happens to them. We make a small subset of predefined paths, which we would use every day.

This will turn our life into reflection of our mind. Most of it will be miserable. And the rest will turn into routine…

What do we do when we try to change that somewhat?

Relax and rest. We go out and try to water our “nice” plants. That’ll make them to recover somewhat. But if you had a lot of weeds they’ll tend to grow as well. And your rest will be spoiled…

Alcohol, tobacco and other drugs. Those will blunt down our senses, so we will not notice some of the painful plants. But if you do it long, you’ll end up torn into pieces and it will be painful all the time…

Suppress our (negative) emotions. Cover those weeds with paper and buckets. They’ll grow inside and suddenly will burst out. And in the meantime, they’ll will suck out life and nutrients from your garden.

Focus on the positive. We’ll take our time to water and care for our garden. We will avoid watering and feeding weeds. They’ll will start to wither. This is much better, but still, we can’t avoid rains…

Practice acceptance and mindfulness. Learn to enjoy both negative and positive sides of your garden. More mindful you are — more you can see, more you can enjoy. Still, it might not be a good idea to let weeds grow and fill the garden…

Use Transformation of Perception Filters. :) Uproot your weeds and banish them from your garden for good. This is the one I’m using together with mindfulness. And it has completely changed my garden. As for how to do that — I’m doing a live webinar this Thursday.

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