While looking into the weight loss surgery I wanted to relate to someone that understood something I was going thru. I meet some ladies online and they were really hard to even talk to me. I would try and talk with them and it was such a mean girl atmosphere. When they say after high school the whole high school, petty, bullshit drama would end… lied!
These women would call me names, make fun of my appearance and the fact that I was so insecure that I wouldn't show full body pictures of myself online. They would tell me things like I would never drop the weight, no matter if I had surgery. I would fail at the surgery and would never fit in in the weight loss community. And I use the word community loosely.
At that point in my life I didn't think I deserved friendships. Good ones anyway. I didn’t think that I was worthy of the life I only dreamed of living. I allowed these ladies to break me down to the point where I thought even if I do have this weight loss surgery there is no way I will be able to even lose 50lbs, 60lbs, or any amount of weight… So what did I do?
Slowly I started putting space in between these ladies and started reaching out to more people in the weight loss community who were as involved with the drama. I was lucky to find a few good people who were successful (unlike the ladies I was talking to, both had weight loss surgery and they were both not loosing the weight).
I did my homework. I looked at what people were doing when they were making progress both with and without the surgery. And I look notes of all the things those who weren't dropping the weight were doing so I could avoid. Still on talking terms with the mean girls, I stayed quiet.. kept to myself and secretly had weight loss surgery.
When they found out I had surgery they completely shit themselves. I can’t say I was surprised, bc honestly I was expecting them to do everything they said and did from that moment on.
My biggest lesson with being friends w ladies like this is to always be myself. I would never wish anything bad on these ladies. I also never wish to speak to them or see them again. I also learned to treat others with respect and love even if I don’t agree with them, or think they are doing what I would do. I also learned not to allow someone to sway how I feel about another person without experiencing that behavior first hand.
I have not spoken to these ladies in a long time. I do not want to ever again. I would never tell someone to stay away from a community like this. Just like every crowd or group of people there will be good people and awful people. Just listen to your gut. Always follow your heart and always do whats best for you. I have many horror stories on things like this.. maybe I will talk about it later but now, I don’t feel like wasting another moment on negative people. So I will just go onto another topic, another post, on another day.
Onward and Upward!!!