5 Observations of Your Life That Could Jump Start Your Path to Success in 2016
There is a sort of blindness that occurs in our lives due to the hustle and bustle we must endure day after day. Our energies and efforts must be geared toward things other than self-reflection or trying to find where changes could be made that would have a positive impact. Yet, with just a bit of time we could discover much about ourselves, make decisions, make changes, and have a tremendous effect if we took the time to step back and reflect on our lives. A needed change could be all that is standing between you and your ultimate goal.
Here are areas in which you should take time to observe and by making adjustments could jump start your life next year to a greater level of happiness and success:
1. How well organized are you? Do you have a scheduling system? Do you stick to it like glue or do you react to the day’s pop-up moment and get sidetracked from your efforts? Do you plan in detail how you will spend you day and what you need to accomplish? If you find yourself drained, unsatisfied with your efforts and accomplishments at the end of the day, wishing you had said “No” to someone or something, and your relationships with friends and family aren’t making you happy, then it could all be due to your inability to be organized and stick to a schedule. You don’t have to be rigid and weird about it, but you do have to be organized and be able to stick to a scheduled plan to be successful. If you need to make a change in this area then commit to it. Buy the tools you need whether it is a physical or digital calendar and scheduler and learn to put it to use. You will never reach your full potential if you can’t do this part well. The only other option is to hire someone to do it for you and allow them to filter your day at every level if you can’t do it. Enough said.
2. Are you finding a healthy balance between life and work? Believe it or not you need both. Here again being organized and well scheduled in your life will offer you the ability to find enough time to devote to your professional goals while still allowing you to have time to play, love, laugh, and learn. Ask yourself what are you longing for in your life? What do you feel is missing? That will help give you answers as to where you need to work at scheduling more time. If you feel you aren’t growing upward in your career path, then perhaps you need to devote more time to finding the right job, adding to your education or skill set, or work towards creating new opportunities. If you are lonely, have few friends, or your personal love relationship is unhappy or non-existent then you need to devote more time toward nourishing and building personal relationships. One balanced with the other will make you better at both. If you devote all your time to one it will ultimately leave you unfulfilled and unhappy. Find the balance.
3. Do you like who you are? Really, do you like who you are? There is nothing more damaging to your life and nothing that can hold you back more than self-loathing. You can be wearing the most confident façade on the outside, posting selfie after selfie, surrounding yourself with no fewer than 20 friends a weekend, and still not like the person that you are in general. You could be suffering from imposter syndrome — the name is misleading, so don’t push this aside if you think it is just about someone pretending to be something, it’s not that — read more about it here: The New Buzz Word For Overachievers That Could Be The Answer To Your Problems.
4. Are the people you associate with adding value to your life? Don’t make excuses for the people you allow into your life. So what if you have been friends with someone since you were three. If they don’t make you feel good about yourself, if they have passive aggressive tendencies, and sometimes leave you feeling empty or broken inside, then it is time to limit their interaction in your life. No one is handing out awards to those that stick it out in bad relationships. Don’t hang around the wrong people, don’t surround yourself with people that don’t have ambition, goals, self-worth, and a moral compass that is equal or even better than your own. I heard a very well-known pastor once say, “You can’t hang out with chickens and expect to soar with the eagles.” You need to hang that on your bathroom mirror, put it on the front screen of your phone, and recite it over and over in your head. If this in an area in which you need to make changes, you have to start as soon as possible. You don’t have to invite drama in — just become less available, less accessible, and start looking for eagles while you are walking away from the chickens.
5. Are you healthy? Do you get enough rest? Do you exercise on a regular basis? Do you eat well? Do you live on sugar and caffeine? Do you get regular checkups? Have you seen a dentist in the past year? Do you have a routine to de-stress? Your health can’t be ignored. If you don’t have time to exercise and get a smart healthy meal then are you going to have time to deal with a major illness down the road? Is it going to be worth it to you to find success if you can’t enjoy it for decades as a healthy and active person? If you love your partner, spouse, children, family, and friends, then do you want to see them suffer their loss of you at your healthiest? You can’t be at your best, do your best, and perform at your best with mediocre health.
A new year brings new opportunities, new beginnings, and new hope. There is an opportunity to review where you need to make changes in your life, start anew, and have hope for the best year yet. Make it happen.
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