Starting Over Every Damn Day

Here's to yet another day one.

Wouldn't it be nice if all those times we've started over on a difficult goal, the beginnings added up and amounted to some bit of progress? Unfortunately, every single Day One in our lives means absolutely nothing until we give it power through consistency. No Day One stands alone.

It's tragic yet true.

This fact occurred to me today because I have begun yet another Day One. My weight is that one thorn in my side that remains an issue more than anything else, and I have got to lose some of these excess pounds. I haven't lost significant weight since before my pregnancy--and my daughter is four.

Even worse, my weight keeps going up, which means that lately I weigh more than ever before. So I figure I have three main choices:

  1. Do nothing and most likely see my weight continue to creep higher.
  2. Keep struggling with one day one after another, one weight loss plan after another, but never really get anywhere.
  3. Make this Day One count by finally moving forward with consistency.

If I want to see positive results, I've got to take positive action. I've got to go with option three.

People aren't joking when they say consistency is key. We need to be consistent to achieve most any goal, and our biggest challenges come from the areas in our life where consistency is so hard.

When it comes to weight loss and fitness, I consistently give up. And it's not like I don't have good reasons for doing so. My weight loss struggles are inherently harder than most people's because I have lipedema and PCOS--two diseases I didn't ask for and didn't obtain due to an unhealthy lifestyle.

Meaning, it's not my fault.

But it also doesn't really matter. I can be upset about the fact that my body has these problems--that's perfectly valid. I'm even justified to be angry, just like anyone else granted some shitty card in life. But being upset won't get me or you anywhere. Or at least no where good.

Whatever your big challenge is--and it doesn't need to be weight or even health-related--but wherever that struggle lies, you can only truly step away from it by consistently doing whatever you can do to respond in a positive way. You have to do something good and keep doing it.

Doing nothing doesn't work.

As I'm saying this to you, I'm saying it to me too.

Because I have had way too many false starts over the past few years where I've said today is going to be different. But it's not. I wind up having maybe one good day and then falling off the wagon two or three days into it. It's ridiculous, and it seriously does a number to my sense of self-worth.

It's hard to feel good about myself when there's this perpetual failure happening. Even the genuine successes in my life start to lose a bit of their luster when I view them through these disappointed eyes. It matters to me that I'm still struggling to get it together.

I feel shitty knowing I've had hundreds of Day Ones but nothing to show for those beginnings.

So here we are.

Yes, it's another Day One for me of diet, exercise, and trying to not let my eating disorders drag me down. Which is a pretty big feat. And I've got to remember that any Day One only has power if I follow it up with consistency tomorrow, the next day, next week, and so on.

It's the same thing with you and your battles. Whether we're talking about addiction and sobriety, success in your career, success at home, etc. Very few worthy goals are a one-and-done thing.

Most require consistency. Repeat.

If we can remember that, and make a point to make the most of every Day One by following it up with consistency, perhaps we'll quit needing to start over again and again.

One day or day one?

You decide.

Single mama, full-time writer, ex-vangelical. It's not about being flawless, it's about being honest. Top Writer. shannon.ashley.medium@gmail.com

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