There was a hubbub when George Clooney proposed to his wife, the woman the media quickly dubbed a “single, smart and successful” attorney who closed the most eligible and supposed lifelong bachelor.
She is 36-year-old Amal Alamuddin, a Lebanese-born Brit who isn’t giving up her career to languish away at Clooney’s Lake Como bachelor pad. Kudos to her.
While many could care less about this, or any celebrity wedding for that matter, I couldn’t help but notice a smug, silent rejoicing among young, single, smart, successful, late-twenty to late-thirty-something women in the U.S. and across the world.
It’s what a girlfriend dubbed “refreshing,” and IT is that there IS hope for the intelligent, professional, independent, ambitious and mature woman who holds out for love—i.e., a woman who can fend for herself, and doesn’t need marriage yet has the power to choose if and when she’s ready and if she’s of the marrying type.
I say “of the marrying type” because these days many more women and people in general (particularly those who have been there and done that) have stopped considering marriage to be an end-all be-all. This once European mindset has finally made its way to America.
Marriage was once considered the hapless young woman’s golden ticket to domestic bliss. But whatever one’s personal relationship goals, everyone wants to share life with a special companion, right?
The societal notion that one must be married also grows or wanes depending on where one lives. I could say it’s a byproduct of how one is raised, but that theory is flawed because practically everyone was married and/or stayed that way two and even one generation ago (as proven from my scientifically accurate powers of observation and “Sex and the City”).
Marital pressure is prevalent in the U.S. south. Having lived there and in big cities here and overseas, I listen with bemusement to a favorite radio morning show in Atlanta, Georgia. During advertisements, there are only three major themes, which are:
1) When are you getting married? (ads on engagement rings)
2) When are you having children? (ads on in-vitro fertilization and surrogacy) and,
3) Why are you so hairy? (ads focused on laser hair removal)
The pressure! I mean, as if being a single, smart, independent woman wasn’t enough, you gotta be bald everywhere aside from your head, too!
So while Wendy Williams quipped on her talk show that she didn’t care about this “fishy” union (perhaps due to the relative speed and secrecy of the courtship—gotta love Wendy for her honesty), based on this coupling many women were happy knowing that when they’re ready for love (and maybe even marriage) they’ll know it, and there will be someone who’s just as ready for them.