Just to add a bit more info about long haired tattooed men racing high quality equipment: I am a skydiver since 21. I blew up my money that I should have spent on hygine articles on LandingZone fees. I am doing my best to to join the German reserve Air force as an explorer-scientist. So I wasn’t /am not just the Nerd, I was /am still on my way of adventure and thrill, as I understand it. But it’s hidden under the layer of nerd / weirdo.
On the other hand, I consider my success, my outer appearance and my “inside” to be a complete package, that I am willing to give to my partner. So I look for the complete package as well.
Also, thank you for the response.