Men & women differ more in the same way we all differ most, more in software (mind) than in hardware (body), starting with inborn firmware, meaning which instincts get activated by which hormones and by which luck of experiences; see Minsky’s “Society of Mind” and note as the article does that none of us is all-boy or all-girl; we are all a swirled mix, which explains best those who look one gender but plead that they are the other. I gave my daughter a truck and my son a doll, thirty years ago, and somewhere within the week, they had quietly traded, signifying their luck seemed to be that each had software deploying that matched their hardware. Alas, neither is a scientist like dad; my girl inherited the 170 IQ but is a happy (degreed) homemaker now, and my boy likes machines but cannot reason well so is a mechanic. None of us is “supposed to be” anything, you see; each life is a roll of a zillion dice and we all settle into comfy energy pockets like water. Except, that is, when enforcers of norms assert their superiority and social order, against which I daresay the oddballs outnumber the authoritarians.
