Sometimes, when you’re trying to quit drinking, the voice in your head can get really loud. So I send out free one minute audio messages of encouragement (and ass-kicking) to anyone who wants them. This is a transcript of One Minute Message #082.
Here’s what you say to somebody who says, “You’re going to drink at this future event, aren’t you?” Like you have a daughter who says, “You’re going to drink at my wedding, aren’t you?” Or you have a best friend who says, “You’re going to drink at my backyard BBQ graduation thing, aren’t you?”
The only person who says that is a person who has a loud Wolfie because otherwise nobody cares.
Imagine if somebody said to you, “You’re going to eat carrots at that event, aren’t you?”
You’d be like … Hmmm, no I’m not eating carrots these days And how could you possibly care? Why would anybody care whether or not I ate carrots?
The only person who asks this question is a person who has a loud drinking voice. And so you can feel sorry for them. You can feel empathy. You know what it’s like. They don’t want to drink alone. You know what that’s like.
And you can smile. because you know something that they don’t which is that they have a loud Wolfie.
Your job is to take care of you.
So you say, “You know what, I’m not drinking these days because it just turns out that it was affecting my sleep and I’m really feeling better and I know you would want to support me on that…”
And then stop talking.
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Belle Robertson, sober 6+ years, blogs and writes and records free sober audios. She has been sober penpals with 2,858 people. She works as a text designer, a baker & caterer, and as a sober coach. She thinks that the voice in your head that thinks that drinking is a good idea, is a liar. This blurb up to date as of October 1, 2018.