Amen. Thanks for writing this. It would have been an act of selfishness to barricade myself and write when I was married. We had three kids and neither my wife nor I came close to getting our own needs met, so it would have been ridiculous to even suggest. Now, kids are grown, I’m on my own. It’s finally, after half a century, my time to live for myself. For the first time in my life. I feel like someone’s going to figure out what I’m doing and put a stop to it. You’re not allowed to have fun! Stop that this instant!