I do think it’s important to give a gift if you’re invited to the wedding and it’s a wedding you either do attend or genuinely wish you could. The gift is a way of showing your support for the new marriage. It can be something homemade even, like a nice framed photo or mini album of your memories together, but I think it is hurtful not to give anything at all. People notice! I got married a few years ago and appreciate using all the things we got from our family and friends. It reminds me that they love us and made the effort to celebrate our marriage with us. Sorry if that’s hokey, but it’s true!