How To Tell Your Unique Story
Do you ever feel that you don’t know anything interesting about yourself?
I hear that a lot from people when I am discussing speech topics. One common piece of advice is to talk about your own experiences or unique stories.
One of the most common responses is “But I don’t have anything that is interesting.” People don’t think that their life is interesting.
They don’t have funny stories about themselves or an amazing job. They don’t have a rags-to-riches story or an underdog tale. They just lived an ordinary life with ordinary events.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with an ordinary life. But it doesn’t make for a good story, let alone a speech topic.
Or does it?
I strongly believe that everyone has a unique story to tell, even if they aren’t aware of it. This isn’t about comforting people, but recognizing that everyone has unique experiences they can draw from their life.
You don’t have to take down a large organization or make a million dollars overnight to have a story to tell. All you need is a conscious recognition of your own life.
1. Recognize That Your Life Is Unique
There are 7 billion people in the world and counting. Every one of them has experienced the world in different ways. No two people experience the world through the same set of eyes.
Your life experiences aren’t the same as another person. The family you grew up with, the friends you made, the environment you were raised in, they are different from other people.
Some people grow up having never broken a bone, while others carry scars from their time playing. Some people own pets while others have never had any. Some people rarely get sick, others easily catch a cold.
Even if you’re twins, you don’t necessarily have the same life as another twin. Your life experience can be different because of a number of factors.
The life you’ve led, the life you’re living and the life you will lead will never be the same as anyone else. That is something unique you can capitalize on and talk about.
2. Remember You Do Things Other People Do Not
Are you an adrenaline junkie or someone who prefers to stay at home? Are you a fisherman at sea or a lawyer? Do you like building wooden furniture or do you enjoy building LEGO figures?
Your career and the activities you do may not look extraordinary. But to others, it’s a mystery. They haven’t experienced those jobs. They haven’t participated in those activities.
Your hobbies and your job might look simple, but you would be surprised at the number of people are interested in what you have to say.
We all love to hear stories of what motivated you to take the job, or why some activities are fun for you. It’s an experience that other people don’t know about, and they want to learn more.
3. Realize Everything Is More Complicated Than It First Appears
If you’re an expert at what you do, you might feel that what you do every day is boring. After all, you know all there is to know. It’s a regular day in your life.
But to someone seeing you for the first time, it’s amazing. What you do appears to be easy, but when someone else tries to copy you they struggle.
You can also point out how there is more than meets the eye, which always makes for eye-opening stories when people realize that things are actually harder than they seem.
Think about shows like Deadliest Catch, which show the life of fishermen doing commercial fishing. Sounds like an ordinary job, but the job itself involves so much more.
Activities such as juggling or gardening look simple on the surface, but they involve a large amount of knowledge that a casual observer doesn’t know about.
You’re good at what you do, and others would like to hear about it. Don’t be afraid to share your experiences, that’s how other people decide if something is right for them.
4. Remember How Your Experiences Shape You
The first time you and I experience something can be memorable, for better or for worse.
You might have been fascinated by charismatic leaders and tried to emulate them. You might have attended a funeral and thought about what’s important in life. You might have felt ashamed that you couldn’t help someone in their time of need.
They might be brief experiences, but they are significant nonetheless. The thoughts you had afterwards, the actions you took, these are stories of how you learned and grew as a person.
These are interesting stories. It is fascinating to see how someone dealt with their first brush of adversity. Hearing about people dealing with difficult situations makes us wonder if we would have done the same.
It doesn’t matter whether the story ended for better or for worse. What matters is that you had these experiences and you had to think about them. People want to hear your stories of growth or success, because they want to see a side of the world they haven’t thought about.
There’s Always A Story To Tell
You have lived a life that no one else has lived. You work in a career and participate in activities that others haven’t experienced. You have life experiences that changed the way you saw the world.
These are speech topics that are just begging to be told.
The best part? It’s all drawn from your experiences. Your seemingly ordinary life has a ton of content that can be refined into speech topics that capture an audience’s imagination.
You might have to work on your story-telling and public speaking skills, but you have topics to talk about.
All you need to do is to spend some time thinking about what’s unique to you. From there, you’ve got a few topics you can talk about.
Whether it’s a presentation or just a chat at a social event, you always have something that people will find interesting.
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