I Apologize For Talking At You Instead Of With You

I do not yet know what it’ll take to become a game-changer/influencer/prolific author like I aspire to be, but I do know this:

I’ll never get there by talking at people.

Which is exactly what I’ve been doing.

And that’s going to change.


This past weekend I received some very simple, yet effective feedback from the very lovely Mrs. Gail Boenning. She asked me when I was going to integrate more story-telling and personal details into my writing so that it could have more of a profound effect on others.

To be completely honest, I thought I already was.

But her words made me realize that I was only scratching the surface and that I could go deeper, wwwaaayyy deeper. I knew that there was more I could offer — there always is — and that I really have to bring it order to achieve what I hope to achieve.

So then I decided to review everything I’ve ever published on Medium and tried to dissect it piece-by-piece.

And what I found was quite revolting…


As much I’m trying to clearly and concisely communicate my message to the world, I know that I need to strike the right balance between being impactful yet also being considerate.

I also need to find the perfect bouquet of words that will precisely represent the genuine empathy and compassion I have for y’all.

And with my old writing/tone/voice, this was definitely not the case.


I noticed how I was telling y’all what to do, barking instructions and not being very considerate of how y’all must have been feeling.

As good as my intentions are, I must admit this was an asshole move on my part.

I wasn’t talking with y’all, I was talking at y’all.

But now that I’ve been able to notice this glaring mistake, I will do my best to change it immediately.

This ain’t my first rodeo nor will it be my last. I know that in order to advance in life, I must man-up, acknowledge my weaknesses, work on them, and shine bright like a diamond afterwards.

I’ll be rinsing and repeating this process until the day I die.

With that being said, I have now been able to identify and hopefully rectify one area of mine that needed major improvement.

From here on out, I don’t want to be talking at you, I want to be talking with you, to you.

Then, when everything is said and done, we can all shine bright like diamonds with each other, not at each other.

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