Why I Have No Choice but to Be Stoic

Let’s not kid ourselves, I am not stoic… not yet, at least.

But I’m leaving myself no choice other than to get there sooner rather than later.


Because if I don’t, I know that my life will never be as prosperous and fulfilling as I know it has the potential to be. I’ve fucked around for pretty much the first 28 years of my life and I can’t afford to waste any more time. I refuse to let my life go to waste. I must do what I can to salvage/motivate/inspire as many lives as possible and leave my mark.

No more fucking around!

So what are the steps I’m taking to become stoic?

Just to be clear, since everybody’s different, what works for me may not work for the next person. But I’ll share my strategy with y’all anyways because sharing is caring and I think a lot of my tactics can be applied to anyone’s life.

So here goes.

Obviously, to be stoic you must rid yourself of instant-gratification habits and tendencies. You gotta be able to suck it up and stick it out. You gotta think short-term pain, long-term gain.

· No longer does it make sense to use violence and intimidation to get what I want. In my more violent and gangster days, violence was the solution to everything. Don’t like someone? Berate ’em, beat ’em, or bury ’em.

Nowadays, I’ll kill you with kindness (most of the time). I still believe that violence is a necessary evil in today’s society, but hopefully that’ll change as I further evolve as a person. I do realize that violence leads to death, and pre-mature death ain’t good for nobody. Especially if you’re looking to leave a lasting legacy — which I’m obviously trying to do.

· No longer can I expect to get rich quick. Back in my drug trafficking and gambling days, I expected to strike it rich instantaneously.

Well, I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that nothing worth having comes easy. I’ve also realized that the shortcut to success is synonymous with the highway to hell.

Great things take time to develop. Period. No ifs, ands or buts. However, I do still have a passion for poker (which may seem like a get-rich-quick angle, but in all reality, it has nothing to do that).

But if you want something worth having, it’ll take time and effort. And if you’re willing to sacrifice those things, it’ll be well worth it (from what I hear, anyway).

· No longer can I depend on liquor and drugs to provide an escape from reality. I used party like a rock star and abused substances like my name was Charlie Sheen. I’ve finally realized that life is precious and short so I gotta make the most of the time I have left on this planet; not waste it being in an altered state of mind just to escape reality.

Writing shall be my new muse.

But in the meantime, I must take care of my temple, be respectful of other peoples’ temples and give back in whatever way I can.

I still party here and there and may not have the healthiest diet, but nobody’s perfect. I’m doing what I can to balance it all out and I’m making sure that moderation is key.

· Finally, I must not sweat the small stuff. I know that resistance and adversity will be present in my life for the rest of my days. The trick is to discern between what’s worth your attention and what’s simply draining your energy.

I truly believe that greatness is achieved when you’re able to do all the little things, while not letting the little things do you.

Other than the points that I listed, I think that’s pretty much the gist of it.

To quickly conclude and summarize my entire stoicism endeavor in one sentence: Think before you act, and make sure that your thinking isn’t deluded.

Take It Home, Richard, Take It Home

My mission is to enlighten the world. I plan to do so through my writing. I plan to share knowledge, wisdom and experience I’ve learned from being a bonafide fuck-up (it’s amazing how much you learn from being a habitual failure and quitter and then you get a new lease on life).

I don’t wish to see the pain and suffering that I’ve inflicted on myself and my loved ones experienced by anyone else.

I’m absolutely committed to my mission. I’ve learned all these lessons the hardest way possible (life kicking my ass) and I will not let them go in vain.

With that being said, stoicism will be my new fundamental philosophy.

There’s no other choice. I’ve taken the road less traveled and it didn’t work out for me. Thankfully I’ve been given many chances to right my wrongs.

The shitty part is I’ve never been able taken advantage of these opportunities.

The good part is I ain’t dead yet.

Now that I know better, I can do better.

But don’t get me wrong, I’ll always be imperfect and things and people will still piss me the fuck off. But as opposed to these setbacks being potential life sentences, like they once were, these setbacks are now just mere speedbumps in my life’s journey.

All thanks to a few mindset adjustments ;)

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