If you are thinking of starting a business, you’re crazy.

Working for yourself is challenging.

On the outside it seems glamorous. I get to create my own schedule, work in the nude, and I can basically work from anywhere on the planet. I love all of that.

But it also means that when I don’t do anything — nothing happens.

My friends and family have a habit of calling me in the middle of the day and the first question is always “what are you doing?” And my response is always the same, “working.”

Being at home does not give me a pass to not work. In fact, I sometimes clock 8+ consecutive hours without a lunch or a pee break. < — which I do not recommend or advocate.

Building self-care into my schedule is still a challenge. Taking a sick day… rarely means taking the entire day off. It just means that I slow down and eliminate a few of the high energy items.

I do this work because I love learning, connecting, and sharing.

I do this work because freedom is expansive and I love carving my own path.

I do this work because I want my life to be an example, so that my daughter and women everywhere can see that it is entirely possible to love yourself, have a life that you love, and live on your own terms.

I do this work because I want to feel good about how I make my money, how I invest my money, and how I give my money away.

I do this work because I am not accidentally intelligent and intellect means nothing if you don’t share what you know.

Before now my intellect was for hire. I exchanged my time for a bi-weekly salary. My time was managed by someone else. And my vacation schedule was laughable.

But I learned a great deal in the workplace. “The man” helped me to cultivate a work ethic and helped me to see my own strengths. Working for someone else showed me that good service is priceless, time is the only true currency, and relationships are everything.

Working for myself has taught me the true meaning of “feast or famine.” But it has also taught me that asking for help is not a sign of weakness. And that pride is not only expensive, but it is always over-priced.

I have also learned that not everyone is interested in making change. That social conditioning is toxic. And that the messenger gets shot down more often than you think.

When I started this business I was not prepared for the growing pains. I was ignorant to the fact that you cannot grow a business without growing yourself. And I was oblivious to the fact that crickets are louder than no’s.

Creative entrepreneurship is not for the fainthearted. It’s a marathon not a sprint. It’s all the clichés you hear about and a whole lot more that you don’t.

The self-employed do a lot of talking, but mostly to ourselves. Motivational monologues about why quitting is not an option, remembering that success is not a destination, and that belief is the only religion you’ll ever need.

Creatives speak a language that is all our own. We straddle the fence of practical and woo. We affirm the impossible and dabble in the strange world of magic.

If you are thinking about starting a business — don’t. Not unless you are prepared to get your feelings hurt and your pockets looted. Don’t start a business if you think that money is going to rain from the sky and that clients/customers are going to camp out on your porch for a chance to work with you out the gate. Don’t start a business unless you are ready to be handed your ass on a shitty platter, more than once.

But if you are one of those crazy people with the insane idea of building something all your own… don’t give up ❤︎.

My name is Stacey Herrera, and I am creator of The Sensuality Project. I help women to enjoy their bodies, create conscious relationships, and live delicious lives.

I love having shame-free conversations about subjects that should be shameless, because “life is sexually transmitted” and I believes that in order to live a wholehearted life, we must include our whole self.

I am on a mission to heal body shame and bridge the gaps between sensuality, sexuality, & spirituality.