Classroom Session #2
Etiquette Lesson #2401: The “P’s and Q’s” of Polite Questions and Quality Phrases
Merry tidings everyone and welcome to our next lesson of etiquette. Today we shall be discussing one of the topics that go hand in hand with the entirety of etiquette and proper behavior. Your vocabulary and only an abridged amount of proper ways to communicate what you thoroughly wish to convey. As a proper gown needs its accoutrements, your vocabulary needs proper word, not only to accentutate your wanton to express courtesy but to tie in everything that accompanies such words.
To bluntly state something or to boldly command of something is not the ideal fashion to getting what you want out of others. You may get what you demand, however, not in the most sincere fashion or even in some cases, not at all.
Simple words and how you convey them can make a big difference in your appearance as well and how your overall stance at that moment is. Simply asking “Would you do this task for me please?” can elicit a different reaction rather than if just asked, “Can you do this task for me?” In our modern day and age the reaction of many may possibly be taken as an oddity, however, good manners do not get overlooked by those who also possess a good upbringing. Thus meaning that you get a wider audience of classy and respectful individuals in your life. (No more Belching Bubbas or Scandalous Sandys for you!)
Adding certain words to your vocabulary, “please, thank you, would you, may I” benefit you in many ways, however, saying a word too many may also be detrimental. A critical aspect of verbal politeness is also learning to abstain from phrases and words as well, especially in certain situations.
There is hardly any situation worse than one spoiled by saying too many words. Avoid saying anything that may cause detriment or lacking in validity to your character. Please do pay your respects at a funeral, please do not remind the family of the deceased of his love affair with Miss Scarlett from down the lane. Common sense is mainly the jurisdiction of what is beneficial to a situation or not. However, some words can be definitely avoided such as; slang, perverse humor, or slander of any kind.
As we are also in the topic of abstaining certain phrases, it is most important to also correct one’s pronunciation. Although not an issue to some individuals, pronunciation can be a driving factor in your mannerisms and your overall success in your encounters.
“Good afternoon Mr. Dixon, how is the weather today?” Would be a swell example of how to greet someone, whether you know them personally or through a common exchange with a stranger.
“Good afternoon Mr. Deeeeeeeeeeeeeexson, how is the weather today?” Is however, not a great example on how to greet the same gentleman.
Proper pronunciation shows that you respect the individual enough to pronounce certain words and titles correctly. This also shows that you are an intelligent person and not a literary recidivist.
In conclusion for today’s classroom session, saying your words in a particularly positive way, not participating in the use of slang or curse words, and learning how to be phonetically inclined shows prowess in etiquette. Practice your words and the way that you proclaim them and you’ll be bettering your life in no time at all!
Thank you all very much for reading my lesson for the week, I appreciate you all dearly and hope to hear from you very soon.
Sincerely yours from the Menagerie,
Supplemental Information used within this article (in courtesy of):
“8. Words, Phrases and Pronunciation. Post, Emily. 1922. Etiquette.” 8. Words, Phrases and Pronunciation. Post, Emily. 1922. Etiquette. Web. 11 Feb. 2015. <http://www.bartleby.com/95/8.html>.
“Good Manners in English | Learn English Language.” Learn English Language Good Manners in English Lesson 3 Comments. Web. 11 Feb. 2015. <http://aboutenglishlanguage.com/good-manners-in-english/>.
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