She has full control over her body, and she alone gets to determine the threshold of her sexuality
Sexual fantasies stem from a non-linear, exciting, and unusual place. A place where our preference merges with our erotic instincts which we’ve built from our experiences over time.
One thing to be conscious about when exploring your kink, is to remember never to objectify anyone. The craving to objectify someone when we get ‘kinky’ is very common and usually happens because we choose to make that person fit perfectly into our fantasy.
The art form of erotica, helps us achieve this feeling without necessarily having the actual experience or relationship with someone. But, the possibility of this, also gets misused…
From single mothers to baby mamas, the label lingers on
It seems absurd to me that women have to be subtly labelled by their choices, their past, and not by their identity.
I never hear the word ‘baby daddy’ half as much as I hear words like ‘baby mama’ and ‘single mother’. When it’s a man, then he is just a father, but as soon as it’s a woman, all of a sudden the need for a label arises.
Truth is, most women wear the boots when it comes to raising a child. So, why does the term ‘single’ have to come in when it comes to a mother? Was…
It shouldn’t always be about the genitals, sometimes we’d appreciate some mystery
Modern day mainstream pornography thrives on fantasy sex. Today’s porn stars are the heroes who try out the stunts we all know isn’t realistically applicable in a healthy and sane sexual adventure.
One of the centres that hold the pillars of mainstream pornography together are the genitals. The display of the genitals, are what get us hooked, and give us the sense of actually being involved in the process. Sometimes we go looking for some porn, just to see two or more people touch each other on the genitals. …
The covert and overt sexualization of the sexuality of others needs to stop
To explore sex, there should be maturity that encompasses the physical, mental and emotional. The problem with today is that despite our new found sexual freedom, there is still no priority placed on emotional and mental capacity in ‘sexual’ adults.
This is one of the subtle reasons why enthusiastic consent is reemphasized till today, because in some way adults don’t feel the need to take on full responsibility during interpersonal relationships.
In today’s modern and stimulating world, there are pertinent questions that need to be entrenched in the curriculum of every kid growing up:
When do we realize that a human being is first human, before anything else?
Sexualizing human beings has to be…
Sexual guilt is human, it’s not just you
Your body is not a temple, it’s an amusement park, enjoy the ride. Anthony Bourdain.
So many of the feelings and anxiety that swoops us whenever the time to express our sexuality comes knocking again for the 1000th time are usually alien to us. The thoughts weigh heavy on our minds and even heart, and because our sexuality has a way of overwhelming us with emotions, it gets way too difficult to discern which of these thoughts are how we truly feel.
Sexuality is like a roller coaster, you scream all through the ride, but when the thrill fades away…
The ‘privilege’ and ‘supremacy’ is the issue, women aren’t asking for help from men
I was about to eat some bananas this morning when I popped open my dreaded twitter app, and luckily I found a really interesting tweet:
Plenty of misogynists are kind to their girlfriends, wives, and mothers. Misogyny isn’t about hating every woman, it’s about hating the ones who step out of line.
The blurry line that masks misogyny, especially in a capitalist world is financial aid. It’s super easy to misconstrue the financial benevolence of someone with genuine kindness towards you. …
Child education about racism is not brainwashing, it is awareness, consciousness and the human experience
The very popular kids program, Sesame Street, and CNN are collaborating on a show addressing racism. The show “Coming Together: Standing Up to Racism” has garnered attention and there has been banter about how sensitive a topic like racism is for kids to learn.
I really don’t think it is a bad idea for little kids to be taught about racism, and I’ll tell you why:
Advocacy as an adult starts from the values you learn as a child
Till today, some white parents still hide under the ignorance that racism doesn’t exist. They pull up pseudo statistics just to justify the bliss of their ignorance to the plight of the minority around…
When it isn’t ‘hardcore’, you get to notice the little things that make sex cute, and porn less intoxicating
Pornography is in many cases intoxicating, depending on your state of mind and sexual mood prior to opting for the ‘erotica’. The power of consuming porn at those moments when your body yearns for pleasure, is what makes the self pleasure or the stimulation successful. But, one thing you don’t want after watching porn is to get stuck in the sensual loop.
Sometimes all we want to do is watch it like an Instagram post, and just keep scrolling through our day like nothing happened.
Feminist pornography, upholds ethics by often featuring storylines, and always contracted, paid adults having consensual…
They can’t stand the system they help perpetuate any longer
Wannabe patriarchs have finally began to see the rot in the system, and instead of supporting true feminism, they have resorted to discredit women and play the victim.
Younger men who happen to be on the far end of the patriarchal scale, have began to cry out for being ‘disenfranchised’ by a culture they are inherently benefiting from. It’s almost as if they are aware of their privilege but are too toxic to loose it to a woman, irrespective of the glaring negative consequences.
Incel culture is in many ways fueled by wannabe patriarchs. The men who are too frustrated…
I was Porn Innocent, Masturbation Innocent, then I became a Complete Sinner
Though I’m a happy ‘sinner’ now, I can’t help but feel guilty from time to time. I know for sure it’s the religious and cultural programming trying to get its way, but sometimes after self pleasure, I just feel like something’s off.
This story I’m about to tell you, is mainly about the journey I had to take to allow my humanity finally breathe, the pathway I had to navigate to truly resist ignorance and not get swallowed up by my misplaced ‘self righteousness’.
It’s pretty obvious now that I was born in a religious home, and though I was…
