But what makes you quite certain, if not doctrine (or just statistical chance, which would make you as guilty or innocent as me)?
You have demonstrated a complete lack of awareness as to why someone would be offended, and you say you do it often, therefore it’s nearly certain you have diminished someone through an act you thought was merely from courtesy.
As I wrote, I’m not excusing myself; I have done the same, but rather than blaming the woman or an imaginary doctrine, I’ve learned from women what I’ve done that made them feel diminished.
Then you wrote,
In any case, if I have not intended any insult or malice, but someone is so sensitive that they pick up on imagined insult where none is intended, and cannot even point it out to me, then that is their problem.
You still don’t get it, do you? Whether you intended malice or not, doesn’t matter. You don’t get to decide if it a person feels insulted by your words or actions.
If you don’t know that the term cracker is an insult, and you call someone a cracker, that doesn’t mean it’s their fault for being offended. You have a choice — you can learn from the moment and choose whether you’d do it again, or, as your writing indicates you prefer, you can blame the person that’s been insulted.
The rest of your comment is on the same theme. Unless you can understand that you don’t get to choose how someone feels about your words or actions, you’ll never understand why you are wrong on this topic.
One last thing I want to respond to; you wrote
you seem to be close to equating my critique of feminist doctrine
You haven’t critiqued feminist doctrine. You’ve made up an imaginary thing that you use to justify not caring about how other people feel.