Why I’m Learning To Not Give A F…..
I believe I’m a driven and passionate guy. I juggle my day job with my family, sport, travelling, reading, listening to and playing music and more besides (as I’m sure you all do).
However, I could probably be accused of occasionally over-thinking things. Perhaps caring too much about the outcome of something, or the direction it’s going in. I’m certainly guilty of not always living in the moment (as I blogged about here; https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/lessons-learning-enjoy-moment-stu-hirst )
However, I recently read (or rather, listened to, via audio book) a wonderful book called “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F***”. (available via Amazon and plenty of other good book stores; https://www.amazon.co.uk/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713 )
The crude title may put some of you off, but don’t let it distract you.
The premise behind the book is that not everyone can be extraordinary. Not everyone can change the world. And that’s okay! By accepting our problems, or indeed our entire lack of greatness, you will ultimately be more content.
Is the secret to a good life to have more money, a nicer job, a better car, a bigger house?
The author, Mark Manson, suggests that “…the key to a good life is not giving a f**k about more; it’s giving a f**k about less, giving a f**k about only what is true and immediate and important.”
He goes on to say that “…the desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
This book has already helped change some of my thought process about what is important and what isn’t important. That exceptional people are only so because they believe they are average and focus on improvement.
I’d encourage everyone to read this book. If only for the following quote….
“You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of f*cks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a f*ck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice — well, then you’re going to get f*cked.”