The Fake Positive Myths that we Keep Feeding Ourselves
Recently, my best friend’s encountered that she had a rare form of liver cancer and it’s only a matter of time that she will be alive. All of us were, of course, shattered at the news and failed to comprehend the tragedy that had hit one of the most genuine and charming person we’ve ever met. But, what made me extremely angry was how everyone decided to walk her through the grief. I appreciated their efforts to ease her pain but the words they chose to do so were utter senseless. I’ve heard those words countless times and every time I have been extremely livid.
How can you tell someone that everything that happens is a blessing of God that we don’t understand now? Or that, You may be wondering why this bad thing happened to you, but remember that everything happens for a reason and it is God’s plan and for those reasons you are one step closer to God’s plan. This is so much of crap on every level. I completely understand how numb folded we become when grief strikes and how painful it can be whether it’s a breakup or death, loss of job or dream. But, if anyone tells you that all ‘this’ happens as a plan or there is a reason behind it, then you need to get rid of that person from your life right away.
These statements or as I call them ‘fake positive myths’ in an attempt to make ourselves or someone else feel better are untrue and downright ridiculous. Tragedy cannot be a way to unleash a plan or a reason. People always make a mistake in assuming that devastation or tragedy can lead to growth. In fact, it just destroys a person. People need to understand that you just cannot construct a fantasy world amidst some tragedy and think that they will feel better about being alive.
Words have great power and saying such words in the moment when a person is having the crisis of his life, when he is at his most fragile can only do harm. Don’t let anyone have these ‘myths’ pushed down your throat. They don’t heal, they wreck.