Which means loving someone also means addressing some of our own emotional needs rather than dumping them on our partner. They are not “half of us,” better or not. They are not here to “complete” us or make us a “whole” person or fill the “holes” inside us that we “can’t” (won’t.) That is always, foremost, our own job. We’ve just done ourselves a disservice by perpetuating a mindset to the contrary.