Designing your End-of-Life Experience

Dying is one of life’s greatest mysteries

Tamsin Smith
Jun 11, 2018 · 4 min read
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It’s an unpleasant topic, one our Western culture infrequently considers because it can be so unexpected and challenges us on an existential level. The idea of planning our own death is often the furthest thing from our minds — it’s too morbid to even think about. But it is a necessary conversation to have because we will all die one day. And it is our loved ones that are left with the burden of handling our death wishes during a time of grieving.

Things to Consider:
Have you considered your own death wishes? How will your body be handled, who is your executor and what kind of service would you like?

At Harmonesse, we work hard to help organizations achieve harmony by putting people at the heart of the life event, in this case not just the deceased but their next of kin too. Recently, we ran a workshop with BC Government to uncover opportunities where improvements could be made to their services around death.

Did you Know?
In British Columbia (BC) alone, there are approximately more than 37,000 deaths predicted annually where only 55% of BC adults have a legal Will. And though about 90% of people agree death should be talked about, only 27% of people actually follow through with it.

It’s uncomfortable to think about our own death because many of us are in denial of our mortality. But according to Stephen Jenkinson from the Orphan Wisdom School in Canada, it’s pointless to deny death because its presence will always be there. There isn’t a way for us to ignore or even avoid it. And the more resistance we have towards death, the more it becomes a monster, haunting us from the back of our minds, wondering when it will come for us.

If a will and our death wishes haven’t been prepared, there are a few problems your next of kin might run into:

Not all industries are geared to help people deal with death in a holistic way.

To help ease the fear of death, there are many avenues to guide you through designing the process, approaching it in an engaging, empowering, and mindful way:

Death is an uncomfortable topic for many people, that’s a given, but it shouldn’t be a topic we sweep under the rug because we will take care of it ‘later’, since ‘later’ might be too late. Let’s change the way we approach the idea of death by mindfully considering our death wishes, writing them down and sharing them on a regular basis. And if you have a hand in designing your end-of-life experience, it will only provide an easier transition for you and your loved ones to live a more peaceful life.

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