This relates to social hypocrisy, I think.
A teenage virgin may find solace in rejection, if they — incorrectly — interpret Nietzsche’s analysis of social hypocrisy as a moral condemnation.
I think Nietzsche would recognise that ‘unrequited love’ comes about due to a failure to have sex with the beloved. Without sex men tend to become romantic, and embellish their ‘unrequited love’ with romantic attributes invisible to everyone else.
Women do not do this in the same way.
Men are romantics, but appear practical while women are practical, but appear romantic — as the old saying goes.
As for Nietzsche’s own entanglements with women, I don’t think these were so disastrous for him — although if, as some suggest, he contracted syphilis then, yes, his encounters with women yielded ‘deep and irreparable’ wounds.
His advice on marriage includes something along the lines, ‘Look at the face you see now and imagine it thirty years hence then see how you feel’ Basically, marry for character not looks — I’m not married and neither was he, but it seems sensible advice.
