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I love books. I mean, I really love books. It’s not just that I enjoy them, but it’s almost like a non-sexual fetish. In my eyes, a life without books wouldn’t be worth it!

There’s nothing I love more than the utter excitement I get when entering a bookstore. It’s a hopeful sensation, as though whatever issues I find myself dealing with in life could be solved by one or two (or three) paperback baes that are books. …


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Most people know the rule: for every cute “cat riding a swimming sloth” video, there are at least a dozen gross cis guys waiting around to send unsolicited dick pics.

When you’re a trans person, that ratio skyrockets while adding in an element of danger. Sure, you might be getting lots of “hey hottie, you look amazing” messages now, but if you assert basic etiquette and refuse to dive straight into sexting, you’re met with a bunch of transphobic messages. …


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Hailed as both one of the worst and one of the best LGBTQ+ films ever made, But I’m A Cheerleader follows the story of a young lesbian who is sent to a conversion therapy camp before she even realizes she is gay. It was released in 1999 in the wake of the murder of Matthew Shepard, a deeply disturbing and public case of LGBTQ+ violence in the US.

Unlike most films of that era, it has managed to stand the test of time and continues to be the game-changing movie that shaped a generation of LGBTQ+ folks.

So with the…


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I was in love for the first time, and the world was perfect.

We would spend hours together, just the two of us. I’d watch him talk and tell jokes and sing, my eyes on him barely blinking. He seemed perfect with his dark roguish hair, a smirk that conveyed intelligence, and an adorable pet monkey.

Okay, I admit it. My first crush was Aladdin from the Disney animated movie, what of it? He swooped in and stole my tiny little heart like he was stealing bread. Swoon.


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Here in Montreal where the pandemic is raging through its second wave, we see rainbows everywhere. “Ça va bien aller”. “It will be ok”.

Rainbows have also been the most commonly recognized symbol for the gay community since the 1970s. For generations of LGBTQ+ people, rainbows have been a signal of safety, love, and acceptance.

Now, for everyone, it carries a similar meaning. But when you consider how the LGBTQ+ community has been and continues to be impacted by COVID-19, in addition to everything else they cope with, it feels like a grim joke.

According to a recent study on…


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I answered people’s burning questions about transgender people, covering a wide variety of topics from sex to dating to nonbinary folks.

Well, I’m back with a laundry list of queries. Imagine this as the next step in being a good ally, and educate yourself before embarrassing yourself!

Remember: if it seems too intimate to ask your only trans coworker…then maybe don’t? Save it for me, so you can prevent any embarrassment at the next holiday office party ( even if it’s on Zoom ).

If I’m a lesbian, and my partner transitioned. Can I still call myself a lesbian?

Interesting question! Congrats on your partner’s transition, many trans blessings from this trans guy to another…


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Condoms are classic contraceptives for penetrative sex, but what about oral sex? Or lesbian sex? Or non-penetrative sexual contact?

The options that exist to prevent STIs between two (or more!) vagina-havers are not particularly fantastic. Many lesbians I’ve known over the years have told me they only have sex with other gold-star lesbians (women who have NEVER slept with a man) and then they kind of just, don’t worry about contracting any sexually-transmitted diseases or infections.

As a bisexual woman, I found this…odd.

Any time that I hooked up with a woman, the conversation around sex was more around the…


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Have things been a little quiet for you lately? After taking a long break from dating, have your nights seemed a little colder?

Face it: you’re touch starved, and because of that, you’ve made an executive decision.

A couple of your friends have talked about having a threesome, and it seems like you’re invited. It might be friends who are a hot couple, or it might be some people you’ve always been flirty with but never had the guts to ask anyone out.

Whatever the case may be, it’s happening. So after months of being deprived of sanity and the…


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There are more and more ways to identify in the LGBTQ2SIA+ spectrum of gender and sexuality, with seemingly new terms popping up every other day. Among gay men, there are otters, cubs, and bears (oh my!). Trans identities can be FTM, MTF, and many in between. And lesbians have butches, femmes, studs, and lipstick lesbians.

If you Google the definition of a lipstick lesbian, you would get this definition:

lip·stick les·bi·an

noun: lipstick lesbian; plural noun: lipstick lesbians

  1. a lesbian who favors a glamorous, traditionally feminine style.

This is the currently dominant, accepted definition and it has been getting more…


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Your Prayers (and DMs) Have Been Answered!

Brrr-bling!

Your phone receives a message, and you know just from the sound that it’s Grindr. The handsome bear you’ve been making moves on has finally replied and seems down with actually hooking up. (Hold up, did that older businessman look at his phone too? Interesting…)

And HarryBear420 is typing another message! You eagerly wait for those three dots to stop their seductive dance, and for his message to be in your inbox. You wait some more and wonder if it would be rude to get back to your endless Reddit scrolling.

Finally…

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The Sex Ed You Never Got

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