On Being Hurt

Hurt only happens with our permission. Sometimes, when I feel wounded by others behavior, or misbehavior, the mind immediately triggers a bunch of protective shields, which include anger and distress, as survival mechanisms. However, after a while, I am able to see the whole situation from a broader vantage point and, then, I realize that the person behaved in an almost predictable way and it was I who fail to accept the fact that the person remained the same, even though I expected him to have changed. In addition, because of this non-acceptance of others psychological structure, I also open the doors that allowed the person to “hurt” me. In other words, I almost unconsciously gave the individual the permission to invade my serenity and cause an emotional havoc on it. In life, it is wise to be always watchful on how we react to unexpected ways that other people will behave towards us so that we can, more and more, reach a level of objective, lucid and caring relationship with the world aiming to avoid giving them permissions to hurt ourselves. (Tadany — 08 07 15)

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Cargnin dos Santos, Tadany. On Being Hurt. www.tadany.org ®