Be Authentic, Let Go of What People Think
Some weeks back I got this idea from book ‘The Gifts of Imperfection’ by the famous author Dr. Brene Brown, chapter, GuidePost#1: Cultivating Authenticity, Let Go of What People Think
This chapter is related to ‘Real’ because it talks about the idea that we should not exaggerate things and show what we actually are. In it author said that, “like many desirable ways of being, authenticity is not something we have or don’t have. It’s a practice — a conscious choice of how we want to live. Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real.”
There are people who consciously practice being authentic, there are people who don’t have it.
Further he says, “The thing is … authenticity isn’t always the safe option. Sometimes choosing being real over being liked is all about playing it unsafe. It means stepping out of our comfort zone. And trust me, as someone who has stepped out on many occasions, it’s easy to get knocked around when you’re wandering through new territory.”
It’s difficult to be authentic because “Staying real” is one of the most courageous battles that we’ll ever fight. People become cruel when we stay authentic. Friends and family get worry. Shame triggers is also a factor because we don’t want our authenticity to be perceived as selfish or narcissistic.
After reading this chapter I realized that yes, it’s not easy to be, that you are, to be real. It takes courage but it will save us from future pains. If I’m authentic it will help me to get out of my perceived comfort zones. Actually real comfort is when we stay real.
My personal example is I gave interview to become a member of literary society of my college. I don’t have passion for it and I’m not that kind of person. I crammed so many verses of famous poets and get knowledge of different authors but my interview proved that I am not real because I didn’t have recent knowledge and information. At the end I thanked because if I’d got selected, it could be really very difficult for me.
So, our choice should be, to be honest. “The choice to let our true selves be seen.”