It’s Your Fault You Can’t Find a Job

There are so many people who have a negative attitude about job loss, and I’m really getting sick of it.

It’s your fault if you’re not employed. Everything that you need to find a job is well within reach.

I hope you don’t think I’m saying this perched like some kind of vitriolic gargoyle on an ivory tower, because:

I, too, am out of a job

This is coming from someone who’s unemployed. As of right now I’ve been out of work for almost 3 months. And while I do have multiple clients that are juuuuuuuuust on the edge of converting, technically: I’m jobless.

And it’s totally my fault. If I wanted to be employed sooner, there’s something I either should have:

  • Started doing
  • Stopped doing
  • Did more of, or
  • Did less of.

Perhaps I should’ve written more. Or perhaps I should have targeted networking differently. Or maybe I should’ve invested in a course. Whatever it was: it’s up to me and no one else.

Now: there are going to be two ways people respond to this:

F*ck this guy

And you’re absolutely right: I don’t know your situation. I may not even know you. And you probably have tried everything under the sun and nothing’s working, and all that’s left is to sit and complain about the job market, and how bad it sucks, and how it keeps the unemployed unemployed, and how all companies are like this, and how you’re waiting for something to come to you.


Take that red pill

The people above who take the blue pill lack one thing: The ability to change mindset.

Listen: there is work out there. There is work out there not only are you capable of doing, but are really good at. Maybe even the best.

There are places that need your help and are willing to pay money so that you can do it for them.

There is business pain that is costing companies thousands if not millions of dollars per year, and nobody there has the time, inclination or skill to fix it, otherwise it would have been.

(But even if they know exactly how to do it, they’re still willing to pay well for someone to do it for them.)

Free your mind. Change it. Change your mindset from an ask to a give. Here’s how:

  • DON’T apply for a job. Applying for a job is an ask.
  • DO network with key people at companies that need the kind of help you can give.
  • DON’T ask people for jobs, even if you know them.
  • DO show your expertise. Write articles, blog posts, LinkedIn content, make videos, talking about how you help. Give it away.
  • DON’T blend in. Don’t ask to be lumped in with everybody else.
  • DO distinguish yourself from everybody else by targeting a niche. Give people a reason to take notice of you by being different than everyone else.
  • DON’T blast your resume out on multiple job boards. This is another ask where you expect people to take the time to read your resume
  • DO refer opportunities to people around you. Give them a referral, and they’ll probably reciprocate later, without you asking.

Most people ask. Hardly anybody gives. Yet most people expect people to give what they’re asking for. If you want people to give, give. Don’t ask.

A good friend of mine was shocked to learn that I haven’t applied for a job since being unemployed. I don’t give out my resume unless asked, and it’s written less like a resume and more like a story about successes and challenges.

All this appears to deviate from some generations-old idea of success that society has cooked up. And yet I have people interested in me working with them.

When I thought about it, I realized: it’s been years since I applied for any job. Almost every job has been either through recruiting, or networking, or people reaching out to me.

And it works because I’m doing something that anyone else can do.

We’re all literally steeping in technology that can help us find a job, a niche, a client, a lead, an ally, and a friend. It’s a matter of using it.

And if something’s not working, try something else. Figure out: Who are you targeting? What companies are you reaching out to? How are you initiating contact? How many phone calls, interviews, meetings is it resulting in? Adjust tactics until you get the results you want. Be aware of your actions and track what is and isn’t working.

Don’t just sit and wait. Take action. Right now.