Sharing your journey

2015 was a tough year for me. My son got diagnosed with a terminal illness and things just got chaotic. Work was pretty hectic and I also was coaching field hockey as a release. Field hockey has been my passion of mine since a young age and I have been fortunate to work with some incredible athletes.

The tournament we were working towards was the biggest in the South African hockey calendar, the Inter Provisional Tournament. It was my first one as a coach in South Africa and I had never worked with most of the players. So a tough, challenging but exciting journey.

Along the journey I had involved my son in what I was doing, what it meant to me and how I was doing everything to give us the best chance of success. He asked lots of questions and wanted to be involved as much as possible. At the start of the tournament I wanted to do a special shirt presentation ceremony. I couldn’t think of a more inspirational person to hand out the shirts than my son. Someone who deals with adversity like it is a walk in the park.

The tournament went well and we made it to the semi-finals where we played the hosts. We didn’t play that well and found ourselves behind before managing to get the game back to 2–2 at the final whistle. Penalty shoot-outs here we come! It was a really tense affair and went to the last one and we WON.

As the last goal went in we all celebrated. I turned round and saw my son coming running onto the pitch with tears streaming down his face. Daddy, Daddy, we won! I picked him up and gave him the biggest hug. Sharing the moment with him. It was a feeling I will never forget.

It is amazing how many times I speak to leaders and business owners who don’t share their story with those closest to them. They try and separate their two lives. They don’t involve their families and friends in their fears and successes. But it is amazing the power, energy and support that those closest to you can bring to your business without you even realising. It is not a sign of weakness to articulate a fear but a sign of strength.

Take your family to your office. Get you partner, child to join one of your meetings. Share with them what you are working towards and ask them questions. Ask them how involved they want to be. Let them share your successes and failures and you will be amazed what this will do to your energy levels and you never know, they may just add a completely different dynamic to your business.

Originally published at on March 12, 2017.