For Black men, there has always been an underlying unspoken spoken that there is only one way to be a “respectable” or “GOOD” Black man. This mindset is embedded in the minds of little Black boys at a very early age. “Good Black boys go to church.” “Black boys don’t cry.” “You are alright boy!” “Don’t embarrass me in this store in front of these White folks!” “Get you a good job and you have to make a lot of money or else you ain’t a man.” “Don’t settle down too young, have fun at the expense of women.” But at a certain age “Boy you need to settle down and find you a good woman and give me some grandbabies!” “Pull your pants up.” “Your pants are too baggy.” “Your pants are too tight.”
Don’t Touch My Hair
Paul A. Bromley

This isn’t a black problem.

Maybe the details relate to black genetics (e.g. how hair grows, etc.), but white people deal with the same stuff. “Don’t dress this way, dress THAT way.” “Comb your hair!” “Don’t embarrass me in this grocery store full of people!”

Get a good job. Go to college. You don’t want to be a plumber…

In all honesty, plumbers make a SHITload of money (pun intended). That’s why it sucks to have to call one. Cleaning up shit is expensive.

Asian kids have the same kind of stereotype. Be smart. Or gifted. Be a savant. Practice. Perfect. Or else.

Name one particular culture where the stereotype is violence, fatherlessness, and gangs from an early age.

Constraints don’t stifle creativity and self-discovery.

Constraints foster creativity. Solving a problem using united resources is almost always the source of true innovation and ingenuity.

Learning to live within the constraints of society means we know how to break the rules in the most productive ways in order to change it.

It’s when we accept our box as the true limits of living that we ultimately have given up on our individuality.

Race be damned.

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