I just turned 40 and it was pretty decent
But I didn’t have any epiphanies or midlife crises yet
This is 40.
This is 40. You wake up and your favorite football club, Liverpool FC, is losing to a club that was relegated just 1 year ago. So you turn off the TV and you get dressed in your workout clothes and go get on a spin bike, like you’ve been doing regularly for the past 2 months, because it makes you feel great to go.
After class, it’s coffee. You started drinking your coffee with whole milk because it feels decadent to do that. No more 2% for you. Bring on the whole cow.
You starting drinking your coffee with whole milk because it feels decadent.
Then you go to Susiecakes to get cookies for your shared birthday party with your kid, because the place you’re going for her party provides cupcakes with too-sweet icing, and Susiecakes is your favorite bakery.
Today is a day for sweets from your favorite bakery.
(Yes, I did say “shared birthday.” I gave birth to our daughter on my birthday, so now we share our birthday. I like to say the day she was born was my strangest birthday party ever, but with the best present at the end.)
I gave birth to our daughter on my birthday, so now we share our birthday.
We usually each pick something to do on 2 different days, and do them both together. So when your kid chooses a party at Children’s Fairyland in Oakland for her day, you put on your party hat and go to fairyland.
So you go to the puppet show, and the carousel, and your kid gets featured in the magic show, and that makes her really happy, which makes you really happy, too.
And suddenly you’re having a lot of fun with the other kids and parents even though you’re at an amusement park for kids. Then you break out the Susiecakes cookies and everyone has too much sugar and gets too much sun and as a result the whole group starts getting really silly. Especially your kid.
Then everyone starts sliding down this grass hill and you decide to roll down it too. Because why not? It’s your birthday, too.
Before you know it, the party’s over, and you have to start thinking about dinner for your family. Thank goodness your favorite burmese restaurant opens in 20 minutes and you can get takeout.
After placing your order, there’s just enough time for you to head up the street.
Walking anywhere is more fun when you’re wearing green swarovski crystal-encrusted sneakers.
Because you need more coffee.
You need that coffee because it’s Dreamforce season, and you’ve got to spend a couple of hours reading content for Trailhead, because you’ve got a deadline Monday.
But once that’s done, your daughter puts a tea light from IKEA on yet another cupcake from Susiecakes for you, and sings happy birthday, and your heart melts.
After she goes to sleep, you have wine, and you choose Rosé because it reminds you of summer in SoCal. And you toast with your adorable spouse, who falls asleep after half a glass because it’s been a long day.
And though you don’t feel wiser, or really any older, you feel content and happy, and most of all, full of gratitude for all the little and big joys that fill your life.
This is 40.
Thanks for reading.