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Have You Been “Friend Zoned”?
Let me give you a few strategies to get out of it…
You may be wondering how you got here? You know…in the zone of friend — a space in which you wish not to be — the potential romantic relationship oblivion where friendships yearning to be more often wander off into Neverland.
It is full of laughs, connection, trust, and fun times. But it is missing something. And what is that?
It’s missing you as your friend's lover and significant other.
Your longing for this “dear friend” in which you actually have a romantic interest, intimately adore, and may even love, is being suspended in air.
The “non-romantic zone”, when someone does not want to be in it, is like a dungeon of unrequited love.
Hence, let’s delve into seven possible reasons you got “friend zoned” or put yourself in it, and how you can maneuver yourself out of this “no man's land” [or at the very least speak your truth and let the chips fall where they may].
Here’s the scenarios with solutions included:
1. You met your person of romantic interest while they were already in another relationship or just breaking up.
Compadre, you came in on something. Your friend’s heart and mind were somewhere else with someone else from the moment you entered his or her life.
You started the mountain climb on the nearly impossible side of it.
Moreover, you probably decided to be this individual’s confidant or comforter until the time was “right” for you to insert yourself as a potential paramour.
You positioned yourself as a support system not your friend.
The problem: You don’t just want to be a friendly support.
If your romantic interest highly values friendship, you may not be able to get out of this placement because sexual and intimate relationships can end in no contact. And if you two are close companions, there is a risk of a…
