I too am a black woman and I hate when we throw around the race card as though we can’t read the definition of the word.

You “hate”? Is that the academic or psycho-scientific term? Hmmm., this sounds like a fair and “square” troll, spewing the common argument that blames racism to something that happens in other people’s heads but always failing to address this specific “psychological problem” as one to be dealt compassionately and professionally like any other.

In the remote case that Amelie did victimise herself, you as a professional should be the last one to throw blame at her face in the sordid and unprofessional way you are doing here. You are the one putting your race inadequacies ahead and above your professional training and playing the race card against someone who came forward openly and without filters. What kind of twisted advice would you come up with if someone came directly to you with the same issues: “man up?”

You see, if tomorrow I turned up in a half-professional therapist’s office, with a strange phobia of metallic surfaces, they wouldn’t come to me and say, “hey, I too am a (add irrelevant comparison metrics to make one feel like the last and only person on Earth with that)…” Neither they would try to jump into the fields of political science and sociology or even fish examples from their own sad sad lives to blame me for feeling the way I would.

You made several requests for more responsibility and when it wasn’t exactly what you wanted, you balked. Come on! Learn how to play the game.

Who wants to play this fucked up game, Dr. Love? More importantly, why would anyone want to play this fucked up game?

I don’t know what practical experience you have in real office politics in the IT industry but one has to be careful with what kind of game one plays. I have seen too many professionals that end up in dead end roles because they were willing to play the game without negotiating or forcing the rules to their benefit a bit more. Actually that is what many high-achieving professionals do, they reject the chaff and concentrate on roles that make them shine. What happens to the ones who accept anything thrown at them in the medium and long term is that they become the department darling whose all the crappy jobs get directed to.

Amélie Lamont did the right thing, firstly she tried to find a more effective way to distribute effort so that she didn’t burn out and then tried to negotiate this. Pulling out was the right thing to do, why does she have to sacrifice her time in an arrangement that was stupid and unnecessary in first place?

My advice to you Dr. Gina Love is to stay the hell away from advising anyone working in the IT industry, your advice will fuck one too many people in their career progression. I believe your profile is not suitable for advising people at all.

That is all for now, in our next session, we are going to work your feelings of hatred towards other afro-descendent professionals. Please keep a diary detailing when you felt compelled to blame them for their own problems. Pay the lady at the exit and see you in 3 weeks.