This is beautiful.
And props for the Dr David Ley recommendation! That book was excellent! I reviewed it on my show then had him on for an interview, which was incredible. He’s a smart (and funny) guy.
If we had better sex ed it would include basic communication about what everyone wants/doesn’t want & then a convo after about how it went so you can improve next time. Take a page from the BDSMers. Clear communication makes for happy sex.
People aren’t psychic. Not watching porn isn’t going to make a guy more communicative.