2 March 2016 — GIVING

This morning I’ve been talking with others about unfulfilled expectations — something as simple as people not expressing gratitude when one has gone out of one’s way to help them. We did discuss the fact that the true spirit of giving is not to count the cost: thereby to have expectations of how one’s ‘gift’ should be received by the recipient is not ‘giving’ in the truest sense. When we are attached to the outcome of our action we are setting ourselves up for disappointment if that outcome is not fulfilled. So few of us, I feel, learn to deal with disappointment as children which means as adults we are still capable of ‘throwing our toys out of the pram’ — metaphorically speaking. I ‘throw my toys out of the pram’ sometimes by avoiding the person who has upset me and this goes some way in fulfilling my need to punish them. On these occasions The Point of Power most certainly is NOT mine because not only am I punishing myself in cutting myself off but by being ‘petty’ I make myself miserable.