Find Your Mirror, Make Changes, and Move Forward

They say that ignorance is bliss, but one place that doesn’t ring true is when it comes to your personal and professional growth. I’ve encountered a ton of people in my life who complain that they’re currently stuck, they’ve hit a plateau either in a personal relationship or within their professional career. They believe that it’s caused by some outside factor, and has no reflection upon them. I get it — It’s hard to look at yourself and come to grips that you are responsible for your current situation because it hurts your feelings. It’s easier on the ego to choose to bury your head in the sand than it is to audit yourself and make the necessary changes in your life that will actually move you forward. I’m sure you already know by now that nothing in life is accomplished without hard work, and finally accepting your flaws and committing to challenge yourself to overcome them is no easy task, but it’s one that is absolutely necessary.

You do this by finding your mirror. The bravery and guts needed to look introspectively and officially audit yourself when things aren’t going the way you hoped. It’s the only method that allows you to take full control of whatever situation you’re facing in life. It will provide you the opportunity to switch from defense to offense and attack the issue head on. Sure, you might have a boss or significant other who doesn’t make you feel heard or appreciated, but you need to remember that the buck always stops with you. Have you been giving them the message that you’re not a valuable asset? Or maybe you’re not bringing in the money that you need to live the life you desire and you choose to blame your salary, but you choose to play video games or watch marathons of your favorite TV shows over finding another side hustle that might help you supplement your income. They key is to always want to be in control and to do so you need to constantly look at the roll you play in order for you to help you put a plan in motion that will let you go on the offensive and fight back. The next time you feel unlucky or not in control, find your mirror and be the reflection you want to see.

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