Identity: the fact of being who or what a person or thing is
We all have an image of who we are. We call it our identity. Is that really us though? Can we change it?
I recently heard recovering addicts speaking about identities they created using drugs and alcohol. They had become “that guy”. They liked being “that guy”. They bought into it.
In order to break their addiction they had to dig into their true identity. They gave up poisonous friendships, mended broken relationships with their family, and put in the work necessary to remember who they really were, at their core, before they became “an addict”.
We can all learn so much from these courageous men and women.
It is easy to get wrapped up in a false sense of self. Human beings are the most brilliant mental architects the world has ever seen. Throughout our lives we construct things; masks to hide shame and suffering, values to suit a certain social group, personalities to attract particular types of people. Our minds work overtime to shape an image of who we are.
We stop being ourselves and we start acting according to who or what we think we are. We act according to our “identity”.
I believe that you should be careful though. You must be aware of the identity you create. Don’t forget that you are creating it. Nobody can take that away from you.
You should also be aware of what your identity is getting you. Is it bringing love and joy into your life? Or is it bringing you misery and even pain?
When your identity is not in line with your true self, you are in conflict. Never give away your own power for the sake of an identity.
Be who you are. You are awesome and you are enough. Create your identity based on that true self.
The world doesn’t need more of any one “type” of person. The world needs more people who truly love themselves.