Theo Nehunos
Aug 23, 2017 · 9 min read

MU 15: Weaponized Emotions Used To Control Us.

In the so-called western civilisations we have grown up with an ingrained inclination. It’s done deliberately and through all stratas of society. The more obvious ones being the various religions of the western world but principally christian and jewish. This habit is further embedded within our psyche, both individual and collective, by our own parents and guardians. By our friends by our 'elders and betters’. Just to make sure that we are fully on board with the program we are indoctrinated with it at our schools, colleges and places of work. The media reinforce it and the propoganda of advertising plays upon the trait for corporate gain. Those in the western world, I was taught long ago, have a predisposition to feel guilt, indeed, we are trained to do so.

This is more important than at first I realised. We'll come back to that momentarily. For now we ought to balance the books and talk about the great eastern populations. There is a similar program of indoctrination and instillment in these traditions as well. The damning emotional tug of choice here though is a desire to avoid discovery in whatever sordid deed is being undertaken. Or in other words, shame.

So in the west it is guilt, in the east shame. These are the buttons that can (and are) played with by the unscrupulous to cause anxiety and suffering within all of us, to whatever degree we have failed to break the programming. Previously I just thought this handy advice to be aware of, principally when negotiating commercial contracts. I didn't give this the attention it deserves.

What is the difference between guilt and shame? In effect, not that much. Guilt is suffering we feel at our own failure to meet impossible standards. We are disappointed with ourselves. Shame is what we experience when we think that others have noticed the things we have done, that we have been discovered and held up for public ridicule. One is more internal and the other more external. All can feel both, unless you have been eugenically manipulated through the bloodlines to not have the frontal lobes in your brain that enable human emotions of compassion and empathy. Unless, you are a sociopath or psychopath.

I had yet to grasp that these are key tools that those who would control us (the psychopathic) are able to use to their advantage and our own grave handicap. How do they do this? How can they manipulate us on the individual and collective levels?

They set us up for a fall.

We are taught by priests, parents, teachers and bosses to be good little girls and boys. And then, when we inevitably fall from these external standards we are made to feel the pain of guilt or the abject terror of shame. It's much more clever, and despicable, than first I realised. Anyone "in" on this knowledge can use it to manipulate others. Most of us have presumably done this, though possibly without being conscious of doing so. How many parents use guilt and shame to control their children? How many bosses and even spouses do the same to control their employees and partners?

Do you see how clever the tools of guilt and shame are? How wide the application of them can be? How tall the levels of employment can rise? From individual to entire nation, guilt and shame can be used. Are used.

I've come up with the formula. It is the last step that is the really potent part, the clever bit. There are variations on the theme.

1. Set the standard
2. Match us to the standard
3. Ensure that we fail to reach the standard
4. Tell us what to do about it. (Give a solution. The solution that fits the agenda).

Here is a variation that could get nation to fight nation.

1. Set the standard.
We are good people, we are nice to our mothers, feed our spouses and kids, we don't kick the dog. We are good eggs.
2. Match THEM (the other nation/tribe/company/family etc) to the standard.
3. THEY don't meet our standard. This is achieved by propoganda (lies) reinforced in media and repeated long and often. This is not theory as I'm sure you are aware. They are bad eggs.
4. Give the solution.
Demand they change to our level of standard. Impose sanctions. Threaten them. Act on those threats (violence and war).

See how easy it is if you aren't looking out for it?

What to do about it?

It will take work, a lot of work.

First to accept that you are indoctrinated. Cognitive dissonance may well step in and prevent this first stage. Second, to break the programming. Third to investigate, contemplate and develop your own ethical code for life. Fourth to know what to do if you don't live up to your own standard.

Understand this addiction you have to lies. You have been infected with a web of illusion. You must break the programming. How easy or hard this will be depends on the willingness you had in the past to believe what you have been told. Worry not, I was the sort of child that believed it all, fell for it hook, line and sinker. But, even I have seen the way out, there is hope for us all!

You must also have your own code with which to live your life. Not an external one but one that you evolve and create over time. Or you take the short cut.
You borrow from the principles of the universe, the laws of nature. Or to shorten it further. You live in selfless service.

To those who haven't thought this through you may be thinking I've lost it. But wait up. I'm dealing with a couple of problem areas here. Firstly, language has been manipulated. Secondly, to explain why unselfishness is the key to your happiness and fulfillment.

Selfless, used to mean unselfish, it is the way that I am employing the word. I have seen writings recently that try to turn selfless into a meaning of giving up on yourself or abdicating self responsibility. This is the opposite of it's true meaning, to me at least. That's the language problem resolved.

Why would acting unselfishly lead to genuine happiness and fulfillment? We are taught the opposite, that it's a dog eat dog world. Every man for himself.
How erroneous, how deceitful. If I spend my time or a portion of it, in helping others, I get a big pay off. For instance, I'm not writing this for just my own benefit but because I hope it will help others see the tricks being played upon them every day. I hope that within these words you may find out not only about the problems but that I may help you in finding solutions that are right for you.

For this, I get the joy of writing (which I love to do), the satisfaction of producing something that I think is of value, at least to someone, one person is enough. And, the best deepest feeling, that of fulfillment. I am doing what I am supposed to be doing. I am writing this in the hope it aids others in place of anything else I could be doing. The thing is I would rather be doing nothing else. My time is being used wisely I feel, and because of this I get to feel fulfilled. A win-win situation, I hope. Unless you have read the last 1300 words and disagree with them all but are still wasting your time reading them (why?).

OK, so we accept the problem, have broken our programming and have adopted our own ethical system of living. (Which should be aligned with the Laws of Nature, if you want to save time in both coming up with your standard and having to learn the lessons of life until you do adopt the universal principles that guide us in a joyful, happy fulfilled life). Don't believe me? Good, don't believe anyone. Believing gets in the way of knowing. Do your own thing, I'm just trying to give you a short cut but you have to learn lessons that you are here to learn, that's fine.

Now we deal with the inevitable fall from grace. Whether you live from externally imposed systems of judgement placed on you by culture, society, family and government or you reject that and live by your own (or universal) principles. Or you have no ethical standards at all (which probably means you are part of the problem we see in human life right now, but I'm not judging). We are all going to fail to live up to standards, even right and proper ones, on occasion. This is the moment that a solution is offered by the would be controllers. Problem-Reaction-Solution.

We can only eliminate guilt when we act with integrity, which means doing what we know is right, even when there is no-one there to see us do it. This covers us for both guilt and shame, if you think about it.

Sometimes we don't act with integrity, we forget ourselves or allow ourselves to be tempted into wrong actions. How do we stop the suffering we cause to others by our actions and ourselves by guilt and/or shame?

We do something about it. We try and sort out what can be sorted out. We try to deal with the situation as it is and remedy the wrongs and make peace with those we have wronged. It's sometimes very awkward to follow this path. But it is necessary for your growth. You have to 'grow a pair' admit your mistake and face the embarrassment and consequences of trying to repair for your wrong action, whether done consciously or not. That's the first step.

The second is to be grateful. Grateful that you had the opportunity to do your best to make amends. You will often find that not only have you learnt a great deal about yourself but your relationship with the outside world expands as well as you learn what it takes to be a human being. Gratitude for being able to at least attempt to correct your mistakes when you have that honest intention can work miracles if you let it.

We did wrong, we did everything possible to rectify for those errors. OK. Now get over it. Forgive yourself. Remember there is no one else to forgive. You did wrong even if you were tricked into doing so (as we often are, being victims of so much programming) but if you are living by a sensible code of life you will give up judging others (since you will never be able to walk in their shoes, remember we are all doing the best we can). If we aren't judging other people, aren't attached to external things (whether material or not) and have no expectations of result or thanks then you will see there is no-one else to forgive. It may take you some time to think about what I just said. I recommend strongly that you take that time and figure out why it is important.
That was the third step and a fourth and final one I offer below.

Be kind not only to others but yourself. It is really, very often, better to be kind than it is to be right. Remember, as I just mentioned, we are all doing the best we can at any given time (even if from anothers perspective it doesn't appear that way). The more we can be present in the moment the better we will be in control and actively creating what is needed for that moment.

I have an affirmation that encapsulates this and with it helps to overcome the programming of guilt and shame by ensuring the right thing is almost automatically done, when this becomes a way of life.

I am present. I'm in control. I take the right action. Regardless.

Regardless refers to doing what is right, right now. Not doing what might be right in the future, but equally might not be, how can you know? Stop making these judgements and live in the now. If you push the child from the path of the oncoming train they may get cuts and bruises from falling off the track but at least they aren't squished! That's taking right action, regardless.

There have been important teachings embedded in this article. Please take the time to assess them and take into your being those that fit or can be modified to fit with you.

Please don't feel guilty about taking your time, there's no shame in it!

Blessings always and in all ways.
Theo Nehunos

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” ―Thich Nhat Hanh

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