I appreciate that you put a lot of thought into this, but I have to disagree with your conclusion about the men in Tizon’s essay. The first husband (and father to the children) worked hard, true. But the wife/mother also worked long, difficult hours once they came to America. And when he left them, it was explicitly stated that he did not provide child support. So how was he in ANY way enslaved by the family? He stayed when it was convenient, had dalliances with other women, and left when he wanted to.
The second husband sounded like he didn’t work, didn’t contribute to the family, and enjoyed being catered to by his hard-working wife and Lola. I don’t see how he was enslaved at all, except by his laziness. If anything, he leeched off of the money and labor of the women in the article.