The most significant take-aways for me here are gratitude and letting go of expectations of others. If one can be ever grateful and maintain expectations of oneself, everything else tends to fall into place. I was smacked with the expectation issue on Christmas Eve and (another) unpleasant experience with my son’s mother-in-law. It stung badly, but the next day I realized that the one who can and should be expected to behave differently is myself. No law specifies that I must attend their Christmas Eve family (a private club to which I will never belong) event. Joy returned.