Dear Parents,

I am sick of your shit. Your kid is YOUR responsibility 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Therefore, if your Little Darling is cursing teachers and hitting his peers, it is YOUR job to bring your lazy ass to school to deal with his little angry tantrums!

Get Involved & Leave My SHORT Summer Out of it!

For the past 10 to 15 years, society has declared the teacher at fault for students having no manners, little motivation, and a grand sense of entitlement. I am not sure when or why we got to this ridiculous place, and most importantly, I cannot figure out how the parents literally have been given ZERO responsibility for teaching their children the very basics of respect and good manners.

When people discuss our “Failing United States school system,” they give vivid explanations about abusive, callous teachers who only teach for the summer vacation (Someone PLEASE show me this glorious, FULL summer vacation we teachers are supposed to receive, because in close to 12 years of teaching, I have NEVER had an ENTIRE summer off!).

That Other Kid

There is another famous student who seems to carry most of the blame for school failure. You have all heard of him, but you rarely ever see this ghostly student. These ill informed parents place the blame for schools failing on “That Other Kid” or “Those Other Kids” who cause ALL the school’s problems, and then offer suggestions about how schools should “Get rid of THOSE KIDS.”

Most parents who blame “That Other Kid” are not involved enough in their own child’s education to realize that THEIR kid is “That Other Kid.”

There is One Thing

There is one very significant factor that affects student success, but it is rarely mentioned. Parental involvement is critical in a child’s education. Even though, science has discovered over and over that a parent’s active involvement is the most significant motivator of student success, it is pushed quietly to the background while teachers are made the major scapegoats for failing schools.

“Parental involvement enhances academic performance. Academic achievement increases when parents are involved in their children’s education. The more intensively involved the parents are, the greater the positive impact on academic achievement.”

“Research at the intersection of ecocultural theory and social cognitive theory has revealed that parents’ own attitudes about learning, the value placed on education, achievement expectations, and approaches with the school and its agents have a profound influence on the development of their children’s achievement related beliefs and behaviors (Bempechat, 2004 ; Grolnick & Slowiaczek, 1994 ; Jeynes, 2010 ).”

“Research on the effects of parental involvement has shown a consistent, positive relationship between parents’ engagement in their children’s education and student outcomes. Studies have also shown that parental involvement is associated with student outcomes such as lower dropout and truancy rates. Whether or not parental involvement can improve student outcomes is no longer in question.”

But all the scientific research in the world, does not stop mainstream America (especially our politicians and the media) from pushing all the blame for student failure on America’s teachers.

They Don’t Do It For The Money

Every day millions of teachers work their asses off for a wage they can barely live on (even though they have more education than 95% of the US population and the student loans to prove it!) while being disrespected by students, parents and now even our newly sworn in President (Hey, your new Secretary of Education doesn’t hold enough credentials to substitute in your classroom, but she is in charge!).

However, if one teacher (out of millions) breaks the law, you will see it on the news for weeks at a time. Those stories will insinuate that all teachers are corrupt and immoral predators who should not be trusted because this makes great news!! Unfortunately, it also creates a gaping divide between parents and teachers who should be working together to give our kids the best education possible.

Teachers Do Not Want to be Off the Hook

Teachers absolutely SHOULD be held accountable for their classroom environment and student learning. As a matter of a fact, we usually don’t mind all the standards and objectives we must meet while teaching because this allows us to show how well our students ARE learning in spite of their individual challenges. Ask any teacher worth their salt, and they will tell you, “The main focus is what is best for their students” even when it involves extra hours for them.

However, if Little Johnny’s parent rarely expresses to him the value of a great education, and/or never inquires about his homework, and/or never shows up to a parent/teacher conference to discuss his progress, there is VERY LITTLE Johnny’s teacher can do to convince him that learning is important and that he should give his best effort at all times.

So the next time your Sweet Precious Angel of Love comes home with a less than stellar report card or behavior slip, maybe you ought to self reflect on your parenting habits, rather than question the teacher who spends 6.5 hours a day/5 days a week with your kid preparing him/her for the future.


I love your kid, but you….nahhhhh.

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