100% understand this and agree that in some situations that letting go of family is necessary. I hope that writing this helps your emotional healing — it took a very long time to forgive my mother for her abuse … it wasn’t until I had my own kids that I realized that she simply couldn’t cope and to this day at age 81 is still a child herself. I will never forget but the forgiveness was mostly for me. “No, it’s not okay but I forgive you” removed the weight that I always had with respect to resolving all the pain that she caused in my life. I finally understood that a couple of years ago and just let it go. I guess that’s what they mean by finding peace with something. I no longer need her apologies or approval etc. Interestingly, what soon followed was a “getting rid of” a few friends that were exactly like my mother. I realize md my patterns and let them go too.

I hope that you find your peace with this.