Not sure what article you were reading, but I wrote an article about MY thoughts on accountability. The piece literally has a last line that says “this is what accountable relationships look like and feel like to me.”
It’s a choice to be accountable to someone. It seems your choice is to no be accountable by the definition that I laid out. That’s a shame, and I hope your actions do as little negative impact to others as possible. My hope is that you may take the time to consider what accountability means to you.
Saying it’s up to you to determine whether someone is being reasonable is a really scary roundabout way of saying you gaslight. Look up the word.
Seems like you may be exhibiting some behaviors that prevent you from connecting with others in any emotional or empathetic way. Maybe it’s tough for you to be vulnerable, I real can’t say for sure, but it looks like you haven’t really thought too long about what your own definition of accountability might be.
I would love to hear how you define it after you’ve devoted a considerable level of thought and intention to understanding dynamics of conflict & harm.