What I need is your love, patience, support and acceptance. Sometimes I feel as if I’m climbing up a mountain and I keep getting kicked off. I need to know that you’ll be waiting at the bottom for me, with no words, no advice and no suggestions on how I can be cured.
However, when you commit to an enormous goal that far exceeds your current capability, willpower won’t solve your problem. Rather, you’ll need a new environment that organically generates your goals — a context that forces you to become more than you currently are. Once you design the right conditions, your desired behavior naturally follows.
Depressed people are overwhelmed by loneliness and isolation. They feel judged and misunderstood. They feel alone and scared. They want to be ok, they REALLY want to be ok in front of you. But they can’t, so they avoid you. And the loneliness gets worse.