Hi Marcus-Thanks and I agree-I plan to “update” my mom for sure and let her know how much it upset the kids. I guess it sounded mean that I called my kids jerks-but I guess what I left out is how they just kept calling her a racist, and I felt that was completely uncalled for. I think in general, everyone could be a little calmer about semantics and practice patience so we all can talk about these things in a productive manner. If someone says something stupid or questionable, a lot of people start calling them racist, and I guess that is what I think of as jerky behaviour. I hear a lot of ugly generalizations and scapegoating about white ladies that I find to be offensive and untrue, but people are always nice to me face to face, so I have faith that we’re all gonna get along and prosper if we keep talking politely about our feelings.