Food Peace Through Radical Kindness

Food peace through radical kindness gives you what you desire.

Being committed to changing your relationship with food takes a different kind of focus with radical kindness.

Radical kindness is holding yourself accountable without judgement. When you look at the situation with neutrality and push yourself when you need to do more and acknowledging your accomplishments when they happen.

You need radical kindness most when…

… you’re tired of solutions that have you running in circles.

… you know what you want, to stop emotional eating, but it happened again.

… you question if you even know what you want.

… you need to adjust your goals to fit with what you want — not what…

3 steps to achieve your goal faster.

Listening is active. At its most basic level, it’s about focus, paying attention. — Simon Sinek

Focus is the most important element in goal achievement.

It’s even more important than the goal itself!

Without the ability to stay on track and keep your goal at the top of your mind it won’t happen.

This is especially true when challenges come up or you find that you need to modify your goal rather than giving it up altogether.

And yet, it’s so difficult to continue working toward it when the progress is slow, doesn’t go as planned or something just gets in your way.

Here’s a small example…

The other day I was driving up…

Sincerity is the best form of flattery!

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There is no in-between, justifications or talking yourself into maybes.

You can’t fake being sincere or authentic with yourself or too long after all you have a brain and you know when you’re fooling yourself.

And, of course “fake it, ’til you make it” doesn’t work either.

Maybe I like the color of my eyes, but my legs are too short. Or, maybe I like the way my body moves, just not the muscles or the jiggle.

Can you parse out your relationship with your body like that and still have a “healthy body image?”

When the painful reality of…

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Goals transform a random walk into a chase. — Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

You can’t predict which twists and turns will throw a monkey wrench into your week.

Your computer might crash.

The printer won’t print.

You might get into a fender bender.

The person next to you at the gym might have skipped a shower or two.

The kids might get sick.

You might get sick.

The wind might blow the shingles off your roof.

These are just a few of the things that happened in my life and the lives of two of my friends this week!

Any number of things might leave you feeling like external forces are keeping you from doing what you need to do.

When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps…

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Becoming a Conscious Eater is one of the most liberating endeavors you will undertake.

The benefits last a lifetime and the skills you learn are transferable to many challenges in life.

Becoming a Conscious Eater is most effective when you’re able to integrate these changes over time. Making a long term, lifelong shift in the way you relate to yourself and your body, you need to give yourself the gift of patience and compassion.

Keep in mind that we’re talking about a mindset-transformational shift in your relationship with yourself.

That’s big and we’ll take it one step at a time.

Our working definition of mindset is the way you think about things, or your…

How to not be one of them!

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As long as you’re moving, it’s easier to steer! — unknown

Most people will never achieve their goals. Even the small ones.

Most people will have dreams and plans they intend to achieve.

Some people have a vision of what they want their lives to be like. They can play it out decade by decade and even bask in the feel of what it would be like.

Good intentions are great, but action wins every time!

I lived in Austin, Texas, dubbed The Live Music Capital, for many years. It seemed like nearly everyone in Austin is an aspiring musician. …

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Leaders spend 5% of their time on the problem & 95% of their time on the solution. Get over it & crush it! — Tony Robbins

Just the other day I found out, albeit for a short time, what the Tony Robbins experience is like. Tony was scheduled to speak for 2 hours, but he wrapped up at just over 3 hours.

Let me just say, it was phenomenal, interesting, sad, uplifting and affirming.

My relationship with Tony began when I was a college student. …

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I go beyond barriers to possibilities. — Louise Hay

Sometimes we all get stuck listening to that little nagging voice in our heads that often leads to binge or emotional eating.

The voice of doubt.

The voice that questions your wise inner voice of self-knowledge. The voice that is overly critical and can be downright mean.

When you’re struggling to avoid something you don’t want in your life like hating your body, food or both, the voice of doubt is usually focused on a the feeling that you lack the willpower to stop yourself.

What if adopting a “what if”…

May time for many things in life! Photo by Alex Holyoake on Unsplash

The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread. — Mother Theresa

There really are only 5 things you need to do to stop emotional eating.

When you’ve gotten to the point that you just can’t do it anymore, it’s time to change the situation.

You know emotional eating is more than just calming anxiety. There’s something more that you need to live your life with peace, fulfillment and health.

When you take the steps below you’ll be well on your way to becoming a Conscious Eater and emotional eating will be in the past.

Acknowledging your body’s needs is a pathway toward a better relationship with yourself

“Take control of your habits. Take control of your life. — Anonymous

All relationships fall into habits.

It’s easy.

You know what to expect, even when it’s something you don’t want.

We do this with others.

It’s those times when you know how your partner will react.

When they do the what they normally do, you say to yourself, ‘yep, predictable!’

We do this with ourselves.

It’s those times you tell yourself you’re going to change the habit and there you are again, like on autopilot, you’re at it again.

We do this in the way we talk to ourselves.

Tracie Strucker, PhD

psychotherapist (lcmft)| stress, emotional & binge eating specialist | courses & ebooks @

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