I’m comforted knowing that I’m not alone Jan — thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had such a long time without seeing family. I think as we get older, we examine our life more — perhaps it’s because we start to feel time running out with more years behind us than in front of us! I certainly feel now that I don’t want to squander any more years by not doing things that matter.
I can understand people being nervous about visiting India — my daughter spent a couple of months there a year ago and I was worried, mainly about transport safety (becoming a parent switched on my worry gene!) She went to experience the culture, but more so the wildlife and she had an amazing time. Have you read posts on Medium by christy bharath? He writes about his experiences watching Indian birds from a spiritual perspective. Well worth reading, especially if you live in India!
I’ve found it difficult to make friends in NZ, although I recognise the fault is mine. It’s as though the 42 years of my life before we came here no longer exist. As you say, we have a need to share our lives with others and that includes our past experiences. I admire that you’ve adopted a new culture and I’m pleased you are happy despite your longing to connect with your own culture. With your husband and children in India, you have every chance of continuing to be happy. When our son left New Zealand, it left a hole, especially with financial constraints on travel.
I agree that travel gives us opportunities for growth. Although at times I find it hard to think of the last twelve years as positive and I want to go home, I wouldn’t have not emigrated. I’m more resilient now and that can only be a good thing!