Agree to Disagree

Useful for maintaining relationships with difficult people such as family, or valuable friends.

Focus on what you have in common. Maybe you happen to be wearing the same shirt or matching jeans.

Recall the person. They are your friend/sister/brother/mother/father, after all! You love them for some reason. Try your best not to turn this into sarcasm practice, and really bring to mind at least one quality or memory that you love about this person.

Do not use their personality traits or petty flaws (we all have them!) as ammunition against them in this argument!

Remember your own values — beyond the issue at hand– and stick to them in actions, not just debate.

Leave space — physically, move to a new room or outside, and with time. Give it a rest.

Breathe (always a brilliant idea)

Do some activism for your cause. This way you can find out how much it really means to you and pick up better strategies for the next time this tricky discussion rears its head.

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