Are You a Christian Single Ready to Mingle?

Being a 20-something single and a part of a church community sucks sometimes. Its not that being single is necessarily a bummer (although at times it is), its the way you’re looked at, talked about, and prioritized.

Don’t get me wrong. I love marriage, I intend to get married one day, I want to have a family. But there is this unspoken understanding that life doesn’t start until you’re married. Where did we get this idea? It’s not a Biblical concept. If anything, it’s anti-Biblical.

Paul exhorts the single life. Saying that the single person can be more concerned about pleasing God than pleasing their significant other. If you have been in a relationship, you understand this. Your headspace is taken up by thoughts of that girl, that guy, how to make them happy, how to make sure what you said wasn’t taken the wrong way.

Dwelling on God does occur, but it is often pushed to the margins.

You can love and serve God passionately and be married. Absolutely. On the other hand, is it too bold to say that you can love and serve God more passionately if you are single?

If that’s the case, let us start honouring those who are involved as single people. I look at the young men and women who serve in my church, and those who are single have an endless stream of activities they participate in. They have the time, so they serve.

Most people in the church affirm singleness. Now we need to let our actions reflect this. Baby dedications? Great! How about honouring the countless hours singles serve in their communities?

We need to grow a culture of honouring, affirming, and sending people out from where we are at. Whatever the social situation we find ourselves in. Single, married, dating, widowed. Wherever God has us at the moment, this is where we are most useful to him.